I will post four weeks of columns here. In October 2008, I will put a years worth in book form and make them available for purchase.

August 18, 2008 - First published in 1990

I’m Angry at You Today

I’m angry at you today. The time has come when this parent has reached her limit. Your glass of milk, which is just now drip, drip, dripping off the table to join the rest of the milk on my freshly cleaned carpet, is the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Two days ago I might have given you mom’s evil eye and sent you on your way. But two days ago my carpet wasn’t clean. Looks like it’s not now either.

Today is another day and I’m expecting six people for dinner. I have only three short hours to complete all the preparations and you’ve been under my feet all day. In the wrong place at the wrong time. You’ve expected me to do all the things I usually do for you.

Two day’s ago, I would have repeated the, “pick up your shoes and socks and put them away,” routine until the task was accomplished. Two days ago, I would have been exasperated that you wiped your dirty hands on the clean towels I just put out – but I would not have been resentful. (Why do children’s hands always come out of the water as dirty as they went in? Haven’t they heard of soap?)

Today I am screaming like a banshee. On your case all day. Today would be a good day to play outdoors, if you were wise. Today I am under pressure. Too much to do, in too little time. 

I want things to be just right for our guests. Why am I trying to impress them instead of you? It’s one of those tribal customs we must all learn to live with. Showing courtesy and hospitality to guests is an accepted fact. Something that is, period. It will help you become a better person. Trust me.

I am sorry that I can’t always react in a calm and understanding manner. I feel guilty when I rant and rave at you, when I’m not always consistent in the requests I make of you.

Children, have patience with your parents. Remember, we are human too. Just like you. For my part, I will strive to keep in mind that you have feelings too and remember what is really important in this life. Copyright 1990 Bonnie Phelps